when your soul mate comes along... it's too late

Today I was talking to a broker and he was telling me about his wife.  And like always I tend to get into conversations with married men who have been married for quite a while. What really bothers me and things i question are why people make choices they make in a spouse. 

From what I've gathered over the years, is that a man will look for a woman who will make a good wife and mother, and a woman will look for a man who will be a good provider and father for her kids. Why do we feel the need to have a perfect little family anyway?

But the thing that kills me, is that every single FAITHFUL man I have spoken to about this, has told me he lays in bed at night thinking about an ex they dated whom they were passionately in love with but didn't marry her because she didn't fit the "perfect wife" criteria. And the other men?  They find women like me. The exciting ones, the passionate ones, the ones who like to LIVE life and experience new things! And girls like me? We end up broken-hearted and alone, because our men will never choose us. 

So which is worse??? Being the faithful wife whom my husband lays next to while he thinks about another woman? or being the other woman who lays in bed thinking of her lover she longs to lay next to so desperately?

Being the wife who wakes up and goes about her business and speaks to her husband when necessary? Or being the woman who who wakes up and the first thing on her mind is her lover, and wishes she could wake up and kiss him? make love to him night and day? the one who gets NAUSEOUS at the mere mention of his wife's existence?

Why don't people follow their hearts and wait to get married to the one they were meant to be with?  

Instead they think LOGICALLY and when their passionate lover and soul mate comes along... it's too late.